Why do we let people hurt us repeatedly? Why do we put up with the fucked up things people do to us? Why do we allow people to fuck us over and in return, we give them another piece of our souls? Even the strongest person can be turned into a fool by mere infatuation and I never understood this completely. I cannot tell you how many times I've seen somebody involved in a relationship where the love was clearly one sided and I really hate to see it. So many men and women get involved with partners who aren't on the same level as them, and when I say level I mean mentally, spiritually, and even physically.
Love yourself first.
Some people say it stems from low self esteem and that has a lot to do with it. You have to love yourself before you let someone else try to love you. If you go into a relationship having problems with yourself, the closer you and your partner get the more it becomes their problem too. If it's something you can't deal with by yourself, what do you expect from someone who can only do so much to help you? Bottom line is, if you ain't shit, please get yourself together before you pull someone who cares about you down with you. Don't put some undeserving person through the hell that is inside you. It's not fair.
No one else.
Some people put up with shit because they're afraid they won't find anyone else. So what, you think God meant for you to be with an asswhole all your life, stuck in misery because another decent human being isn't out there for you? Last time I checked, there were billions of people on this plantet, not billions of women and one man or vice versa. It will do some people so much good to realize that for every man/woman that you put up with shit from, there is another person out there that will treat you better. Someone who is on the same level as you.
Don't be a doormat.
I literally cringe when I see people like this. The doormats who let their partners walk all over them. They get told things like "oh baby, I'm out of cash and my car note is due, please lemme hold something I promise i'll pay you back." When your dumb ass gives it to him don't be surprised when 3 months later that nigga's asking if he can pay you back in gum. Let me let you in on a little secret, when another human being identifies you as a door mat that is all your purpose will be from that day forward. Women, men don't want a girl they can walk all over. A real dude will tell you, they actually despise that shit, it gets boring after a while. Men, the same thing goes for you. Personally, I would never date a guy who let's me do what I want to him and get away with it, it shows me that you're weak and you don't have a backbone and if you don't have a backbone, how are you going to protect me if I needed it? I love a man who challenges me. Challenges my thoughts, my decisions, the things I say, things I do.....who's hand doesn't shake when he puts it up my shirt. If you're a doormat, you're cool to use for a while but after that you start to get annoying. In a relationship, if you're doing everything for the other person and they are just taking taking taking and only giving a little in return, that's not a relationship, that's a hustle. Get a lot for a little, just like on a clearance rack. Now that doesn't sound right, does it?
Conclusion.
Women, please, you have to stop letting love turn you stupid. We have to stop giving our hearts to these men who don't have the slightest idea of the value they hold and what to do with them. Men, please stop letting these women seduce you out your hearts and paychecks with ass and titties. I don't give a fuck if she looks like fucking Beyonce and sucks dick like Kim Kardashian, if she's a deceptive cunt, recognize that shit for what it is. Love yourself before you try to love someone else because if you don't love and respect yourself and act like it, how dare you ask someone else to do the same? Exactly.
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