If you are easily offended part 2......

First off let me start by saying that I never thought or think that I was better then anyone because I have fairer skin. I have never once looked down on anyone because I have long hair nor have I seen beauty as a color. Want to know why? Because we are all black.

VALIDATION

We as a people look for others to validate us. We let the media tell us what we should wear and when our flats are in season and when they are out. We let the media tell us we need C cup titties and a Jennifer Lopez ass to be sexy. We let the number of guys who try to holla tell us if we are pretty are not. So when does it stop? Truth is it may never but I have always been told never say never so I'll give a more optimistic response by saying IF WE WANT CHANGE WE MUST LIVE BY IT! It starts with accepting yourself and truly loving yourself. Give yourself a hug and look in the mirror and tell yourself "I am Beautiful" because you are! Everyone has something special. Whether its your voice, hands, feet, smile, eyes, confidence, or the way your hair curls when its humid. My point is no we do not all look alike and we never will so accept it.

Darker girls think that the color issue only applies to them and that they are the victims. Boo hoo cry me a river because thats a bold face lie. WE, THE BLACK RACE, ARE ALL VICTIMS. Up until I got to highschool I attended all black schools and I was always one of the fairest and I dealt with my share of teasing. Girls teased me calling me casper, Micheal Jackson, or labeled me a hoe and I was still very much a virgin. So what if the boys liked me? I was not thinking about them..I just wanted friends and a social life. Girls (even some light skin) wanted to fight me because I had really long hair and I thought how stupid are they? Now I look back and think they were very ignorant because it was pure jealousy and self hate. I feel bad that their mothers didn't tell them "you are beautiful" or "your skin is to die for" because my mother did. My mother, grandmother, and aunts told me no matter what people said I was beautiful so I never let the teasing or fights get to me. I never let someone's opinion define me. I know I am beautiful, strong, smart, a great mother, an okay cook and a little pudgy (I seriously have to lose a few lbs). One thing I know for certain is I am not a modern day slave! The black community has so many modern day slaves its pathetic. From those stuck on the dark versus light issue to the men impregnating our women and leaving them to be single mothers (different story for different day). Some of you are so stuck in that mentality that you hate to see a lighter skin girl and for what? Because some thug wanna be cheated on you with a light skin girl. It's his loss not yours. I mean seriously would you really want to marry and make a future with a slave? dont worry I'll wait. I mean sure everyone has preferences and sure you watch videos and only see light skin or spanish women in the videos...but you are a part of the problem. Lil Wayne is clearly color struck by anything red and YOU still go out buy his cds, go to his concerts, and scream that his not attractive ass "could get it". Then Lil wayne takes your hard earned dollar and tricks it off on a red chick and his 182 baby mothers. If we want change we must simply live by it, not complain and tell our sob stories when we contribute to the problem. Loving yourself is your key to happiness. So what if you dont have long hair? Either you can gracefully embrace your hair or go to the beauty supply and buy some indian remy. So what if your not the same shade as Beyonce? Exfoliate your skin, moisturize (spf) and smile! Remember CONFIDENCE makes a women sexy not her color!

If you do not get anything from either post please take with you this: If you let the color of your skin control your life then sweety you are not living.

-Kierra