Tuxedo FAB!

She makes it look so simple and fierce!

Thanks Bitch But I Didn't Want Your Opinion..

My public service annoucement for today is:

I Do Not Want Your Opinion Unless I Ask

My life is the way it is because I chose it to be this way. A lot of people cannot except this..so they blame others and come up with excuses like their childhood, ex, etc).. but I can. I had a child because I chose to have sex unprotected. I have my own apartment because I chose a responsible boyfriend who happens to have a responsible girlfriend. I pay for premium gas because I wanted a foreign car...I could go on and on. The moral is that none of my decisions had anything to do with YOU! I dont give a fuck about your opinion and whoever else your giving "friendly" advice to probably doesn't care either so heres a tip...SHUT YOUR MOUTH. People will only learn and become better is through trial and error. If people took everyones advice we (the world) would not have accomplished so much. So the next time your giving advice and it is not asked for please rethink that decision!

P.S. Have you ever gotten free advice from someone about something that they clearly couldn't get right? (example: men) I thought so.

Drake - Dreams money can buy.

"....and lately I do bitches the meanest, tell em' I love em and I don't mean it."

Di pum pum chart....

I came across this a long time ago on my tumblr. I honestly thought all vaginas looked the same like mine until I started watching porn. Which one are you ladies? I'm a number.......*gets distracted my something cool*.

If you are easily offended part 2......

First off let me start by saying that I never thought or think that I was better then anyone because I have fairer skin. I have never once looked down on anyone because I have long hair nor have I seen beauty as a color. Want to know why? Because we are all black.

VALIDATION

We as a people look for others to validate us. We let the media tell us what we should wear and when our flats are in season and when they are out. We let the media tell us we need C cup titties and a Jennifer Lopez ass to be sexy. We let the number of guys who try to holla tell us if we are pretty are not. So when does it stop? Truth is it may never but I have always been told never say never so I'll give a more optimistic response by saying IF WE WANT CHANGE WE MUST LIVE BY IT! It starts with accepting yourself and truly loving yourself. Give yourself a hug and look in the mirror and tell yourself "I am Beautiful" because you are! Everyone has something special. Whether its your voice, hands, feet, smile, eyes, confidence, or the way your hair curls when its humid. My point is no we do not all look alike and we never will so accept it.

Darker girls think that the color issue only applies to them and that they are the victims. Boo hoo cry me a river because thats a bold face lie. WE, THE BLACK RACE, ARE ALL VICTIMS. Up until I got to highschool I attended all black schools and I was always one of the fairest and I dealt with my share of teasing. Girls teased me calling me casper, Micheal Jackson, or labeled me a hoe and I was still very much a virgin. So what if the boys liked me? I was not thinking about them..I just wanted friends and a social life. Girls (even some light skin) wanted to fight me because I had really long hair and I thought how stupid are they? Now I look back and think they were very ignorant because it was pure jealousy and self hate. I feel bad that their mothers didn't tell them "you are beautiful" or "your skin is to die for" because my mother did. My mother, grandmother, and aunts told me no matter what people said I was beautiful so I never let the teasing or fights get to me. I never let someone's opinion define me. I know I am beautiful, strong, smart, a great mother, an okay cook and a little pudgy (I seriously have to lose a few lbs). One thing I know for certain is I am not a modern day slave! The black community has so many modern day slaves its pathetic. From those stuck on the dark versus light issue to the men impregnating our women and leaving them to be single mothers (different story for different day). Some of you are so stuck in that mentality that you hate to see a lighter skin girl and for what? Because some thug wanna be cheated on you with a light skin girl. It's his loss not yours. I mean seriously would you really want to marry and make a future with a slave? dont worry I'll wait. I mean sure everyone has preferences and sure you watch videos and only see light skin or spanish women in the videos...but you are a part of the problem. Lil Wayne is clearly color struck by anything red and YOU still go out buy his cds, go to his concerts, and scream that his not attractive ass "could get it". Then Lil wayne takes your hard earned dollar and tricks it off on a red chick and his 182 baby mothers. If we want change we must simply live by it, not complain and tell our sob stories when we contribute to the problem. Loving yourself is your key to happiness. So what if you dont have long hair? Either you can gracefully embrace your hair or go to the beauty supply and buy some indian remy. So what if your not the same shade as Beyonce? Exfoliate your skin, moisturize (spf) and smile! Remember CONFIDENCE makes a women sexy not her color!

If you do not get anything from either post please take with you this: If you let the color of your skin control your life then sweety you are not living.

-Kierra

If you are easily offended..........

First of all, I would like to make it clear that this is not a post bashing light-skinned people or anyone for that matter. We were all created equally, it's the things we believe that make us what we become.

Now that that's out of the way........down to business.

I can identify with this video in the sense that I do go through some of what they're talking about, but as far as me ever wanting to change my skin color, i'm happy to say that as long as I can remember i've never wanted to do that, i've never wanted to change my skin. Yea, when I was younger and didn't know any better I would get sad because some people wouldn't accept/like me and found me unattractive because of my skin color, but as I grew up and learned why some people think like that the less I gave a fuck about their opinion because to me, they're just simple minded. I actually pity them because they've been brainwashed and some of them don't even know it. Take this however the fuck you want to, but white people are some of the most ingenious and manipulative motherfuckers on this planet. I'm talking about they fucking manipulate entire races and we just sit back and let them, and when it comes to them manipulating us into thinking that the physical traits that are unique to us are ugly and unworthy those motherfuckers are running true to form............and so are we because once again we believe that shit is ok until it really starts fucking with us. Most of the white people i've met, especially living in georgia, have this attitude like they're superior to every other race especially blacks and that's the bullshit they feed to us via the media. We sit here and let them tell us that our people, OUR PEOPLE are physically unattractive unless we have different color eyes or silky straight hair, or any of the physical traits that are unique to THEIR race. I've seen black people put down the same physical features that THEY HAVE. I've seen black men and women refuse to have partners within the race THEY ARE because they feel like that race is unworthy........What kind of bullshit is that? But why do we do it? Because television, magazines, internet, tells us that we need to look more white to be considered beautiful, we are being manipulated by them and some of us don't even realize.  If this sounds like ignorance to you, ask yourself, who runs the media? what the fuck does the media say about people who are darker? what are these young men and women being taught about darker skin tones by the things they say on television and these so called "voices of the future"? "Beautiful black woman I bet that bitch look better red" Really Wayne? I'm not a racist person and i'm not hating on light-skinned people or anyone for that matter,  i'm just speaking on the shit i've noticed since I came to america. I'm being so real right now because I know yall expect me to say some shit like beauty is within you and all that morally correct bullshit but there are people that are ugly and physically unattractive to me and your skin tone has nothing to fucking do with it. There are ugly white people, black people, indian people, hispanics, asians, and so on and so forth. No entire fucking race escaped without some of the members getting beat with the ugly stick. Kierra, the other co-founder of dopeXchange is one of the most beautiful young women I know, has nothing to do with the fact that she's light-skinned. Tiny is one of the ugliest women i've ever seen, has nothing to do with the fact that she's light skinned. Naomi Campbell is one of the sorriest excuses for a human being i've ever seen, has nothing to do with the fact that she's dark-skinned, and I am one of the most beautiful people to myself and I don't condemn myself because of my dark skin tone. Those women in that video can sit there and let people fill their heads up with all this bullshit if they want to but I value myself far too much to ever let someone tell me that my silky soft dark skin isn't beautiful, bitch cuz I know it is. Honestly, I don't think shit will ever change because that mentality is so much apart of us and it is being fed to us every day, but if what I just wrote doesn't at least make you think about your place in the world as a person and who decides it, then there is nothing more I can really do for you.

-Kelly

*sigh* tattoo fad..

My baby.

Frank Ocean - Acura Integurl





*hov voice*How could you not love it?

The beauty of positively loving yourself.

There is a feeling that you get when there is true happiness going through you, it's like the feeling you get when you're scratching somewhere that itches, but it's inside you. Weird description but that's what it feels like to me. What if I told you that you have the power to feel like this anytime you want to? Well guess what homie, you can by loving yourself. No i'm not talking about masturbating, I mean value your feelings, your thoughts, the way you look, your actions, your dreams, everything about yourself. I see so many people who don't value themselves nearly as much as they should and as a result they accept other people treating them how they see themselves, which is not nearly as good as they should be treated. I see so many people who have low self esteem because they don't look like the image society paints as "beautiful". I'm not going to lie, there are days when I think I look ugly as fuck and I pick at everything that's wrong with me, honestly we all have those days because no one is perfect. What makes you beautiful is the way you carry yourself. You might not be tiny with a fat ass, pretty eyes and long hair, but carry yourself like a queen and people will notice. You can't be confident in the way you look if you don't accept your flaws and work with them. If you're a big girl, carry that shit like a queen, if you're purple, wear that shit like you know you're beautiful. Confidence and charisma triggers a reaction in people that just being beautiful can't. 

Loving yourself and having a positive mind is so important, especially with all the bullshit we live in. Do you know how many people on this earth would love to see another human being fail for no reason other than for the sheer entertainment of watching them fail? That shit makes me sick to my stomach. When you truly love yourself, none of the bullshit can touch you. I'm so serious, the way i'm feeling right now, mothafukin Oprah could call me a negative, conceited bitch to the world and I wouldn't give a flying fuck. Know why? I value myself and know myself enough to know that that's not true. A lot of people take being focused on yourself as being selfish and conceited but those are people who don't know how to open their minds and look deeper to the root of someone's attitude to see why they carry themselves that way. Selfish is a trait that I personally hate in people so I try my best to avoid it. Somebody telling me that i'm being selfish when i'm focusing on myself makes no sense to me. See, they're so one track minded that they don't stop to think that maybe i'm getting myself right so that I can be a good person to others. Being selfish means that you don't give a fuck about anybody else but yourself and your well being, both mentally and physically , loving and taking care of yourself is totally different because you don't give up caring for others to look after yourself. You don't say fuck everybody else's needs and wants and i'm just gonna do what is great for me and me only and basically shit on everyone else who's trying to do the same, that's selfish and fucked up, a person with a positive mind uplifts other people while uplifting themselves. Conceit is when you love yourself to the point that you put yourself higher than everyone else and treat them as such, no bueno boo. A big part of being positive is never putting anyone down in order to do it. Know those people who are like "oh I'm having such positive thoughts and Sally's just a bitter bitch because she doesn't have the same thoughts as me". I have news for you sweetheart, your hustle is backwards and your fraudulent ways are transparent.  People like that try so hard to exude positivity but don't know what the fuck it is, so they tell everybody how positive their thoughts are when they're really miserable and overcompensating. They don't know what it is to feel comfortable enough with themselves to be honest with themselves. They don't know how to not give a fuck about the things others say about them, they don't know what it is to live their lives for themselves. A HUGE part of loving yourself is being honest enough with yourself to admit your faults and fix them, not because anyone else told you it's a problem, but because you think they're a problem. I know people who have their head stuck so far up their asses that they can't even see themselves, and you know what, it's none of my business because in time they'll learn. A wise woman once said, "When you ain't shit, something will always happen to you to remind you that you ain't shit," and honestly, that was some of the realest shit I've ever heard. The only person's opinion that you should really give a fuck about is yours, but if there is something really wrong with you, if the same shit keeps happening over and over again with you and different people and it keeps hurting the people around you, pull your head out of your ass and fix it. 

Not giving a fuck is not for people who are blind to their fucked up ways. You know, deep down you know when you fuck up because you feel that twinge every time you look at or even think about the person you hurt. Apologizing is not suicide and I will never understand why people act like it is. Have the courage to admit that you're wrong and apologize if you hurt someone, it's not going to kill you, in fact it will make you stronger. Even if someone hurts you, forgive them because when you don't, you're only hurting yourself. Yes, I know some people are fucked up and they did fucked up things to you, but every time you think of what that person did and it makes you angry, that person is controlling you. The way you feel is the way you will react to certain situations and if your actions are a result of what that person did to you, then that person is your puppeteer. Think about it, what they did controls how you act and think. You have to learn to let shit go, meditate, pray, get counseled, do whatever it takes but you have to let that negativity go because that shit is poison. You wouldn't poison the one you loved so why would you do that to yourself? '

What about the ones who mistake honesty for negativity? Truth is, honesty can sometimes come off as negativity because the truth isn't always pretty. Someone told me that i'm such a negative person because I told them the truth about a situation that they were going through,  i'm talking bout this girl got so upset and dropped me as a friend, took a molehill and turned it into a mountain and I honestly didn't even argue back with her, my response to the text was "ok" because honestly, I didn't give a fuck. I didn't give a fuck for the simple fact that I know that i'm not a negative person, you don't know me nearly as much as I know myself because I love myself and I took the time to figure myself out, so why would I listen to you?................don't worry, i'll wait. If you ask me for my opinion, that is what you're going to get because I try to be a honest person and if i'm honest with you and you don't like it, love yourself enough to either know that i'm wrong, which I could be, or take a look at yourself and admit that I am right and fix that shit, not because I say so, but because you're honest enough with yourself to know that you need to fix it.

All i'm saying is just please value yourself enough to not let other people's words affect you in a negative way. Words don't hurt you, it's your interpretation of those words that hurts you. Don't sell yourself short in this life and don't let anyone treat you any less than what you know you deserve. Don't settle for shit and don't let anyone else control your thoughts. Your thoughts are powerful, the most powerful things you have and if you let other people control them then you're in more trouble than I can tell you. If you're a good person and you know you're a good person, take that attitude with you wherever you go and apply it to everything you do because no one can make you feel anything without your permission. 

-Kelz

“I can walk down a hall of mirrors in Versailles and be so satisfied when I look myself in the eyes...”

-Hov 

*sighs* Young love.....

Lmfao.....

Damn Kelly.

 We see you girl. Werk. :-)

Sexy summer nights....

I love these. Perfect to accent anything from a blazer with a cute long tank top to that little black dress. They look kind of hookerish but to me they're fun, sexy and playful..............and hookerish, but that's ok. Live a little............shit. 

All of the above can be found at asos.com.

Timothy Bloom - Till the end of time

Quite possibly the most beautiful video I've ever seen....

...rest in peace

It saddens me to learn that 22 year old Montae "Mbone" Talbert of Cali Swag District was gunned down. If you are not familiar with the group I am positive you are familiar with the hit song Teach Me How To Dougie. They had everyone dougie-ing from neighborhood kids to Ellen Degeneres. No one knows why he was murdered but it is speculated that it is a "wrong time wrong place" situation.

My issue with this news is that his life was taken from him. Will we ever stop killing each other when all we have is each other. I can honestly say that our race (African American) is the one of the few races that does not stick together. We allow stupid things such as street credit, materialism, and gossip come in between the bonds we could have. If we would just stop letting things that do not matter dictate our actions we would be better off. If you are not familiar with the Willie Lynch Letter then I advise you get familar with it and realize that we are losing a fight much bigger then anything happening on Fox 5 news.

MY MESSAGE: WE ARE ALL BROTHERS AND SISTERS & WE HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER.

Condolences go out to his family and all of of those who have lost someone dear to them.

How do you wipe your ass?

 .......or wash your punani?

Seriously. 

So damn true.

We all know one.....

Relationshits......no, that wasn't a typo.

Why do we let people hurt us repeatedly? Why do we put up with the fucked up things people do to us? Why do we allow people to fuck us over and in return, we give them another piece of our souls? Even the strongest person can be turned into a fool by mere infatuation and I never understood this completely. I cannot tell you how many times I've seen somebody involved in a relationship where the love was clearly one sided and I really hate to see it. So many men and women get involved with partners who aren't on the same level as them, and when I say level I mean mentally, spiritually, and even physically. 

Love yourself first.

Some people say it stems from low self esteem and that has a lot to do with it. You have to love yourself before you let someone else try to love you. If you go into a relationship having problems with yourself, the closer you and your partner get the more it becomes their problem too. If it's something you can't deal with by yourself, what do you expect from someone who can only do so much to help you? Bottom line is, if you ain't shit, please get yourself together before you pull someone who cares about you down with you. Don't put some undeserving person through the hell that is inside you. It's not fair. 

No one else.

Some people put up with shit because they're afraid they won't find anyone else. So what, you think God meant for you to be with an asswhole all your life, stuck in misery because another decent human being isn't out there for you? Last time I checked, there were billions of people on this plantet, not billions of women and one man or vice versa. It will do some people so much good to realize that for every man/woman that you put up with shit from, there is another person out there that will treat you better. Someone who is on the same level as you.

Don't be a doormat.

I literally cringe when I see people like this. The doormats who let their partners walk all over them. They get told things like "oh baby, I'm out of cash and my car note is due, please lemme hold something I promise i'll pay you back." When your dumb ass gives it to him don't be surprised when 3 months later that nigga's asking if he can pay you back in gum. Let me let you in on a little secret, when another human being identifies you as a door mat that is all your purpose will be from that day forward. Women, men don't want a girl they can walk all over. A real dude will tell you, they actually despise that shit, it gets boring after a while. Men, the same thing goes for you. Personally, I would never date a guy who let's me do what I want to him and get away with it, it shows me that you're weak and you don't have a backbone and if you don't have a backbone, how are you going to protect me if I needed it? I love a man who challenges me. Challenges my thoughts, my decisions, the things I say, things I do.....who's hand doesn't shake when he puts it up my shirt. If you're a doormat, you're cool to use for a while but after that you start to get annoying. In a relationship, if you're doing everything for the other person and they are just taking taking taking and only giving a little in return, that's not a relationship, that's a hustle. Get a lot for a little, just like on a clearance rack. Now that doesn't sound right, does it? 

Conclusion.

Women, please, you have to stop letting love turn you stupid. We have to stop giving our hearts to these men who don't have the slightest idea of the value they hold and what to do with them. Men, please stop letting these women seduce you out your hearts and paychecks with ass and titties. I don't give a fuck if she looks like fucking Beyonce and sucks dick like Kim Kardashian, if she's a deceptive cunt, recognize that shit for what it is. Love yourself before you try to love someone else because if you don't love and respect yourself and act like it, how dare you ask someone else to do the same? Exactly. 

Do you.........literally.

Don't you just hate those friends who scoff at you and say you're strange when you tell them you do certain sexual things like masturbate and watch porn? I hate that shit, like can I live ho? Everybody at one point in their lives has watched a porno flick and masturbated and anyone who says any different is a damn lie. I know, I know, certain things are meant to be private and that's true, but don't be a hypocrite about what you like. Don't judge me because of the things I like to do when I'm having sex, as long as I'm not into anything disgusting (i.e. child porn and bestiality) I don't see the problem.  People have this big thing about lying about masturbation and I hate it because everyone does it, from the first time you figure out that rubbing your clit or beating your dick can give you pleasure you've been doing it and 10 years later you're still lying about that shit, please stop it. Women lie about it especially because they're insecure and feel like people will think they're lonely if they admit to masturbating and you're right because the idiots who think that have wack sex lives and only masturbate when they're lonely. A real chick touches herself and masturbates to explore her wants and to figure out what she likes so she can tell her partner how she wants him/her to put it on her. How are you going to tell someone else what to do to you if you don't even know what you like done to your body? Exactly. Sex will be so wack for you if you don't let loose and embrace the things you like to do.  Don't ever let people's judgement of the things you like to do get in the way of you enjoying yourself and that doesn't just apply to sex.  Do what makes you happy is a very cliche statement but it's the truth. Everyone dies anyway so make your life worthwhile.

Are You A Flexer, Rapper, Bad Bitch, Or Ratchet?

The very first subject I wanted to speak on was love but then I figured that’s not how I want to make my entrance. It would be like showing up at the club at 10’o clock to get in the free line with a head to toe forever 21 outfit and I’m not with that shit at all. I rather be the woman who walks in that bitch around 12:30/1:00 am through V.I.P and make every nigga mouth drop and every bitch eye roll (I say nigga and bitch why? Well that’s a convo for a different day). So that’s when I decided I wanted my topic to be about the shit I peep/peeped on social networks.

Flexing: (v) showing off, fronting, and/or lying
Ratchet: (adj) careless behavior, ghetto, nasty and/or crazy

Okay here is my problem with social networks. It allows people to put up a façade and it fool tons of people into thinking your living a life that you’re not. Then to top it off the façade will get the individual cocky and up in the air like they really doing the shit they type. The only way I can prove this is by examples (names have been omitted to spare an ass whooping).


Flexers. There was a guy who owned a twitter (a 500 k guy) and talked to one of my girls. He got out of pocket and said some shit like “how you gonna go from a Ferrari to a Honda?” (or some shit). Now me being close to my home girl I knew the truth. Dude owned no car, had no job, not even a bed to sleep in in fact he was a couch bummer. But he had the nerve to throw punches at a well established girl. Or you have the ones who @ you like they just did some real hardcore shit. Dude all you did was press shift and number two and typed some words. That’s not thug life. Have a seat power ranger! Oh and the infamous club pictures. Just because you took your school refund, paycheck, and/or short term money and blew it on a vip section, a bottle, and threw some ones in the air does not I repeat does not make you that nigga/bitch. It in fact makes you stupid (not high status) because your in a stinky club with a bunch of people who could give a rats ass about you with they cup out to drink your shit, just to listen to some music (that I'm sure you listened to on the way to the club) and drink. You could of did that at home. So lets just stop the flexing. Oh yeah and borrowing each others fits, cars, and money makes you a FLEXING ASS!

Rappers. You’re always talking about rise and grind. You have no grind you are rising with nothing to do and no future in the music industry. You tag me in your songs, club events, and album cover and honestly I’m sick of that shit. I don’t care and if you do it again I will report you to Mark Zuckerberg. Matter of a fact nine times out of ten you don’t even own your own shit and if you do your barely getting by because you are trying to smoke like Wiz Khalifa and be in the studio like Tupac (rip). All I'm saying is there are plenty of colleges and tech schools and hey jobs are starting to pick back up its nothing wrong with choosing a more realistic career path especially if your 25 or older!

Bad Bitches. Its just way toooooo many of you seriously I lost count. To be bad is to exude confidence and be secure with yourself. I’ve seen some unfashionable not that pretty chicks and guess what she had her own shit and could probably take your man. Just because you can throw some bebe, forever 21, and charlotte russe together (which I'm not knocking I do find cute stuff in all of the listed) does NOT mean you are bad. Just because you got the best duplicate of a Louis V purse does not mean you are bad. Just because you got in VIP does not mean you are bad guess what sillies can get in VIP not by face card but you get the point. So always quoting Nicki Minaj and saying “I’m bad” doesn’t make you bad it in fact makes you insecure because you have a point to prove with yourself. Okay you just ate a Twist or Prime guess what I’ve eaten there plenty of times and I’ll show up in sweats, a polo, and dunks and still shit on you (toot toot). So please let’s just stop the “I’m Bad” movement.

Last but never least:

Ratchets. I’ll keep this one short and simple. If you got a kid/ or kids and you’re always going out every weekend with photographic evidence you may be ratchet. Exposing your life problems on social networks (baby daddy issues, you got an abortion, or other personal info) may make you ratchet. If you have a video uploaded on the net where you are fighting or doing any other foolish activity you may be a ratchet. Pictures/Sexy videos with grandma or the kids in the background you may be ratchet. Talking like a nigga when you’re a female vice verse you may be ratchet. It’s upsetting to see pregnant chicks at the club like bitch where are your morals you are a mommy now. It’s becoming a disease that has to be cured.

If any of the following pertains to YOU please STOP! In the words of the hilarious Ed Lover, “C’mon Son!”

Frank Ocean

Everyone who knows me knows that I am currently hooked on Frank Ocean so naturally my first post would be about him.......obviously. He is from New Orleans but he's based in Hollywood and he is a member of the music group Odd future. I am absolutely in love with his music because I honestly have never heard music that really makes my feel happy, yeah I've heard one or two hot rap artists and some catchy pop tunes but Frank Ocean touches my mind and soul in a way that no musician has ever done before. His lyrics just do something to me, and makes me just look at life a different way. I even got Ki hooked on him. :-) Show your support for him by clicking the download button and listen. *K Hart voice* I promise you boo boo, you will love it.......unless you like garbage ass tunes and if you do then this post is not for you.

Download here.

Download here.

 Trust me, you will not regret it...............and it's free. Shit.

The women behind the blog.

Meet Ki (or Kierra)

20 year old college student, nursing major, and most importantly, a PROUD mother.  Co-owner of dopexchange.

"My life is my message" -Gandhi  

Meet Kelz

21 year old college student, business major, fashion designer, and PROUD Jamaican. Co-owner of dopexchange.

"When you ain't shit, something will always happen to you to remind you that you ain't shit" - A wise woman.

We started this blog because there are still a lot of issues people are afraid to speak on. We want to give you insight on our opinions, thoughts, etc. and give you a broader perspective on whatever situation applies to you. This is our way of getting our messages out from sexuality, relationships, and everything young women and men need to know. There will be fashion, humor, life lessons, and most importantly real shit. Enjoy!